If you’ve coached so long as I’ve, you find yourself studying a variety of classes. However most of them didn’t come from certifications, programs, or textbooks.
They got here from expertise—teaching others, teaching myself. And truthfully? From getting issues mistaken greater than as soon as.
One factor I look again on now and suppose, What was I pondering?! is one thing I used to imagine was useful…
One thing I noticed a variety of different coaches do, too: utilizing train as a type of punishment.
Ever educated just a little tougher after a weekend of indulgence?
Added an additional spherical on the gymnasium since you skipped a exercise yesterday?
Felt the necessity to “make up for” one thing?
That was precisely the strategy I took with shoppers once I first began out.
You ate greater than you had been “imagined to” over the weekend? Let’s burn it off.
You’re late to your session? Guess what—we’ll make it “damage” just a little extra.
It strengthened a message that’s been echoed for many years: No ache, no achieve.
Someplace alongside the best way, motion stopped being a celebration of what our our bodies might do and a solution to enhance their capability—and began turning into a device to repair what was “mistaken” with them and one thing we solely do after we did one thing ‘unhealthy.”
Meals turned the reward.
Train turned the punishment.
And that, proper there, is the issue.
Utilizing Train as Punishment Modifications Every thing—Quietly and Deeply
Each time we deal with motion as “the stick” for doing one thing mistaken, we plant a seed. A seed that claims: Train is one thing to be averted.
As a result of nobody seems to be ahead to being punished.
Even when a exercise isn’t meant to be punishment, that’s the affiliation we’ve constructed. We’re not shifting as a result of we need to—we’re shifting as a result of we really feel we “should.” And that’s how one thing constructive turns into one thing we dread. That’s how we go from wanting to maneuver to forcing ourselves to maneuver.
You may’t construct one thing constructive from one thing your mind has discovered to concern.
After which we surprise why we’ve misplaced the motivation, the vitality, the thrill we used to really feel.
It Damages Our Relationship With Meals—and With Ourselves
Within the punishment mannequin:
Cake = additional cardio.
Lazy weekend = Monday burpees.
However right here’s the reality:
Meals isn’t one thing you have to earn.
And your exercise isn’t a “get out of jail free” card.
It’s additionally not an answer to cravings or overeating.
After we reinforce that meals = guilt and train = punishment, we strip away the chance to construct an empowered, wholesome relationship with both.
I bear in mind a consumer who overindulged nearly each weekend. And each Monday, I’d push them via an extra-tough session to “burn it off.”
What I didn’t do? Ask them why it saved taking place.
I didn’t see that my job as a coach wasn’t simply to “make up for” the habits…
It was to assist them perceive it. To get interested in what was actually occurring. To work collectively to discover a extra supportive method ahead.
We didn’t change something. We simply saved repeating the cycle.
That’s not teaching. That’s injury management.
It Embeds Disgrace—And Disgrace Doesn’t Create Lasting Change
Disgrace would possibly get somebody to point out up. It’d push them to do yet one more spherical, yet one more dash, yet one more cleanse.
Nevertheless it doesn’t construct confidence.
It doesn’t create consistency.
And it positively doesn’t foster self-trust or long-term motivation.
What it does is make the coach the motive force.
Now the consumer exhibits up not as a result of they see worth within the course of—however as a result of they need to keep away from guilt, embarrassment, or disappointing somebody.
That’s not empowerment.
That’s concern.
And when concern is your important motivator, burnout, resentment, or avoidance simply follows.
Disgrace disconnects us from the why behind motion. It strips train of its pleasure, its objective, and its actual advantages.
Why would we tie one thing as important and nourishing as motion to guilt, ache, or efficiency anxiousness?
And extra importantly: Shouldn’t we be doing it for ourselves—to not please another person?
What I’d Inform My Youthful Coach-Self Immediately
I’d inform her:
I do know you thought you had been serving to.
However you had been reinforcing the identical tales your shoppers already believed:
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That they needed to earn their proper to eat.
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That their physique was an issue to be fastened.
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That being shamed into change was efficient.
I’d present her there’s a greater method.
As a result of if a consumer “slips up” on their consuming plan, the answer isn’t to punish them with sweat.
It’s to ask:
What made that selection really feel like the correct one in the intervening time?
How can we assist you subsequent time to select that feels extra aligned to your targets and values?
If somebody misses per week of exercises, the reply isn’t to crush them once they return.
It’s to assist them reconnect to their why. To remind them what motion does for them—not what it takes from them.
Motion Ought to Be a Partnership, Not a Punishment
As coaches, our job isn’t simply to right.
It’s to get curious. To hear. To information.
To create a secure house for self-discovery.
To supply assist and accountability—however from a spot of respect and compassion, not management.
You don’t want to maneuver to make up for what you probably did—or didn’t—do.
You progress to construct one thing:
A stronger physique.
A calmer thoughts.
A deeper reference to your self.
That shift—from punishment to partnership—is the place actual, lasting well being begins.
What would you inform your youthful self about utilizing train as punishment? —Marlene
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