“What if I fail once more?”

In case you missed my e mail from a few weeks in the past, Steve requested me to write down some extra targeted health and diet content material for the Rebel.

And since then, I obtained a TON of emails from individuals circling across the identical factor: an absence of perception they’ll really make change work this time! I wager you may relate:

“Largest problem – shedding belief within the course of and myself.”

“Having hassle believing that being constant will really assist and being scared that it doesn’t matter what I do I’ll fail.“

“I’m afraid of failing, I’m attempting to not set myself as much as fail but it surely all appears so daunting. I do know all of the phrases for the “proper” mindset, however I simply can’t appear to search out the desire/power/need to go and do something after work.”

These fears are very, VERY regular. (Although that doesn’t make them any much less sucky to take care of!)

So, what can we do once we are feeling caught and terrified of how overwhelming this all feels?

💡 The Most Vital Factor

Whereas each story is completely different, there’s one factor I’ve seen that actually helps you’ve got a better probability of success:

Constructing momentum early – after which defending that momentum.

Early wins make the remainder of the journey simpler.

And positive, an early win MIGHT seem like seeing the dimensions transfer or getting stronger within the fitness center.

However these issues are outcomes that come weeks and even months later, AFTER doing “the factor” persistently. That isn’t useful within the second once we are feeling unsure and overwhelmed.

That’s why I like to start out by monitoring and celebrating effort.

Selecting 1-2 repeatable actions you can follow every day:

Every motion is a WIN, which is a small signal of progress.

And if we will acknowledge and have a good time every motion, it begins to construct proof that “I’m the kind of one that can do that, even when it’s arduous.”

And that little little bit of hope?

It may be sufficient to maintain going by the robust components.

👨‍🔬 A Actual-Life Instance

Let’s take my consumer Ben, for instance. He was on this very same boat once we began working collectively.

• Tremendous busy work schedule with an hour commute every means
• 4 younger youngsters at house
• Had a latest well being scare that made him notice it was time to make a change
• Unsure the place to start out, and actually afraid this may be one other try that he tried and failed at

So we talked about all these issues brazenly – the REAL constraints on his time and power, the worry that this wouldn’t work, and his hope for a future the place he felt higher and health didn’t really feel so arduous to stay with.

After which we picked a couple of issues that we thought could possibly be a superb place to start out.

✅ A 10min stroll throughout his lunch break

✅ A listing of go-to orders at eating places round his work – so he would all the time have a superb possibility even in a pinch

✅ Push-ups off the countertop each time he brushed his tooth.

And whereas these actions could appear small, that they had an outsized impression. They allowed us to construct consistency and follow overcoming obstacles FIRST, then we might fear about optimizing for outcomes LATER.

And that’s the place the actual magic occurs—not simply in bodily change, however in mindset:

“I’m the form of one that exhibits up.”

“I can belief myself to comply with by.”

“I understand how to get again on observe when life occurs.”

Ask ​any of our most profitable purchasers​, they usually’ll say the largest change wasn’t simply of their physique.

Their largest change was really in how they thought about health, habits, and who they believed they may change into.

🕳️ The Pitfall

After we begin with attempting to optimize, doing every little thing “completely” proper from the get-go, it may possibly really feel like we’re drowning and never capable of sustain.

That simply reinforces the idea that we aren’t capable of make any modifications. That we’re simply one of many individuals who “these things doesn’t work for.”

That’s the precise entice we are attempting to keep away from!

After all, everybody’s place to begin is completely different. You might be able to soar proper right into a a number of day per week exercise routine, or extra aggressive diet modifications.

The purpose isn’t to FORCE your self to tackle lower than you might be able to – it’s to be sure you can steadiness “difficult” with “doable” so you may construct perception in your self and the method.

Quick ahead two years, and Ben’s routine appears to be like a lot completely different from the place we began.

• He now does a energy exercise 4x/week within the morning earlier than work
• He goes by durations the place he tracks his energy and macros, and others the place we take a extra relaxed method with a common give attention to getting loads of protein, fruit and veggies every day
• He prioritizes sleep and will get over 8,000 steps every day

Whereas Ben has gotten stronger, misplaced over 30lbs, and seen his blood markers enhance – it began with a very powerful factor: constructing momentum.

🎬 The place do I begin?

So the place does that depart you, as we speak? Right here’s how I’d method it.

✅ Acknowledge the actual challenges and constraints in your time and power.

This isn’t a “rah-rah” method to disregard all of the arduous stuff. Acknowledge that it’s OK and NORMAL to really feel this fashion. (Steve really simply wrote in regards to the ​“Discover and Identify” idea​ right here.)

✅ Begin with follow—not perfection.

Deal with a repeatable motion (like a brief energy session, or protein at two meals), not simply the end result you need. Consider it like follow. You gained’t be good. You’ll make errors. And that’s all a part of it.

✅ Create visible proof of your effort.

In our teaching program, purchasers verify off duties every day and we will see seen progress of their effort.

If you happen to don’t have a coach, we love utilizing one thing we name the Jar of Superior:

Drop a marble (or paperclip, or coin) in a jar each time you do one thing aligned together with your targets.

It’s a option to see your consistency and progress, even earlier than the mirror or the dimensions displays it.

✅ Have fun the small wins.

You walked as we speak?

Ate mindfully?

Skipped the all-or-nothing spiral after a tough day?

That’s a win value acknowledging. The method leads to the end result.

If you happen to’re feeling caught proper now, and even hopeless, let’s see if we will flip the script.

We’ll begin small. We’ll have a good time the hassle.

And we’ll construct that momentum again collectively.

You’ve received this.

And if you need assist selecting your first “fast win,” simply shoot me a message and I’ll enable you to discover it.

– Coach Matt